Some are my own epiphanies and discoveries, many have come or evolved from my favorite quotes or literature. These are the things I tell myself:
- There is no absolute truth. Everything is situational.
- Be someone you’d like to meet.
- It is not your business what others think of you.
- There can be no progress without vulnerability.
- “Ready” is a myth. For the big, difficult, important things, you will almost never feel 100% ready. You need to strike when the iron is hot, which does not always coincide with when you feel most “ready.”
- Love = trust + respect + appreciation. Trust is how you perceive a person’s intentions for you. Respect is how this person treats themselves and you. Appreciation is all the fun and tenderness you share.
- The spotlight effect. People are usually too busy hoping other people don’t notice their own flaws to notice yours.
- In the same vein, people aren’t against you; they are just for themselves.
- Just like brakes always overpower gas, apathy and doubt will always overpower love and progress.
- “The fact that a great many people believe something is no guarantee of its truth.” (The Razor’s Edge, Maugham)
- Also, don’t believe everything you think. Your own mind can be a sick, masochistic place.
- Tell people what you love about them. They will feel appreciated and continue to feel proud about doing that thing you love; you will feel better for empowering their confidence.
- Go rogue when you need to. Great things often lose their essential greatness when they have to be adapted to fit the whims and diversity of a group.
- “Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t.” (Bill Nye)
- It is usually better to trust and end up hurt than to close yourself off and miss out on potential beauty.
- A good workout and a long sleep will always make you feel better.
- No envy, no fear. At their very cores, most of your problems are caused by these two emotions.
- “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” (Maya Angelou)
- If you learn to relate to people on their own terms, they will feel accepted and you will learn something.
What are yours?